I visited the location of where my big sister will be getting married today. Though the area will look much greener in the summer, and the weather will paint a lovely orange glow on everything, it did still feel magical getting a glance into where my sister/best friend will be marrying the lady of her dreams.
It was not until I made it up the hill towards the lovely view when I realised that this area was one of the many places my dad would take my sister and I when we were little. When you’re younger, you never really take in your area the same way you do when you’re older. Your tiny, carefree world made you the most mindful you will ever be. Most often, it didn’t matter how you got somewhere or why you were there – the important thing was, you are there and each part of your small, innocent mind is taking that all in.
Because what I do involves being an online influence, there are a lot of people that hold on to my word (which has it’s good and bad sides). A question I get a lot is “where do I find happiness?”. Though I am most definitely not always happy, I have moments where I notice my current state of happiness being particularly good for a long while. I often use that time to analyse what I may be doing differently. That child-like mindset I was referring to earlier always seems to be the answer. The moment I keep my mind out of doubtful worry mode, is the moment I am free. Free from stress, anxiety, pain, fear, misery… and most importantly, sadness. It isn’t easy living in the moment, but when you do, it sets you free.
To focus on the present, we should always recognise what we have instead of what we do not have or what we had. It is very easy for us to be caught up in our own little world when life moves so quickly and change hits us hard. We begin to dwell on the old times and often forget that we are still living. Amazing things are always happening, the trick is noticing them when they are. Taking in key moments now, rather than later when they are gone is essential. Here I was, on high down hill, taking in the moment just as I did when I was little, and just as I will when my sister speaks her vows. The very same place that I enjoyed with her many years ago for a very different reason – playing in the leaves in our kiddie welly boots will soon turn into nervous giggling in our beautiful wedding clothes (and probably a cry or two on my part).
Of course, with the good times will come the bad. It is easier to be happy during the wonderful times, for sure. But when the tricky times come fast approaching, what do you do or where do you turn? Believe it or not, these times play just as much of a big part as the good ones. Just like with everything in life… How do you know what your favourite food is if you hadn’t tried a number of different ones? How do you know what your favourite hobby is if you hadn’t taken part in a few? How do you know what happiness feels like if you’ve never experienced sadness? The moments in your life when sadness hits you like a cold, unwanted brick sucks… But people with the biggest stories, darkest moments and greatest accomplishments can put up the best of fights.
You live life to grow as a person, and with each day you wake up, you form into the person you were born to be. Let every rough experience that knocks you give you growth, and let every marvellous one remind you that life is worth living again. Take lots of pauses, and even more deep breaths as you soak in your surroundings as they are today.
“What day is it?”
It’s today,” squeaked Piglet.
My favorite day,” said Pooh.”
― A.A. Milne
“Happiness, not in another place but this place…
not for another hour, but this hour.”
― Walt Whitman