Why Being Teased About My Dress Sense Made Me Stronger | NinkComPoop

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This blog post was inspired by two things in particular. The first one being my adorable new alternative bags from a few affordable asian websites; and the second being two encounters I had with a couple of strangers a while ago…

The following links provided will lead you to all the items found below:
1) Cupcake: http://rstyle.me/~9ZOjC
2) Pineapple: http://rstyle.me/~9ZOjK
3) Mouse: http://womenfashion.storenvy.com/products/13684464-cute-kawaii-cartoon-mouse-backpack

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Even though something pretty hurtful was happening, I was experiencing a really empowering moment

You might be wondering what I was referring to when I say ‘strange encounter’. It was actually one of the very few experiences I have ever had where even though something pretty hurtful was happening, I was experiencing a really empowering moment. The first instance happened during a night-out in my local town. I had over-heard a conversation between a friend of mine and her mate she had invited out. I remember the girl causing a fuss with my friend because she didn’t know who I was. I could hear my friend trying to assure her that I was a nice friend and good person…

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She said “I don’t want to hang around her, she dresses differently” 

I was only in ear shot so I could hear every word being spoken at this point. The girl must have had a lot to drink or simply just didn’t care whether I could hear or not. The most rememberable thing I heard was “I don’t want to hang around her, she dresses differently”. In that moment, I was instantly back at school amongst young kids who would make remarks just like that one. I remember making some snide comment back to her about how I could very clearly hear everything she was saying. She didn’t care. She simply turned around so her back was facing me.

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Somebody who is happy and content with their lives do not refuse to hang around somebody because they are ‘different’

Everybody who overheard this awkward situation happening didn’t really know what to do… The majority of them were actually more concerned about what I was going to do. Was the night out about to take an awful turn? Was I going to hit her? Was I about to melt down into a show of public hysterics? Was I going to start a fight? I can tell you now, none of those things are me! What I was going to do though, was remember this experience for a very long time… I took one look at this girl and mentally made a note to myself about what unhappiness looked like. I am not the most intelligent woman in the world, but if there is one thing I do know, it is that somebody who is happy and content with their lives, does not refuse to hang around with somebody because they are ‘different’.

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If anything, it just made me feel more confident about how I choose to express myself

For the rest of my evening, I don’t remember feeling angry or becoming sad. I simply remember gaining a massive sense of pride and self respect. Not only had somebody noticed that I have the confidence to dress differently and put on clothes that I thought looked great, but I was able to disallow somebody with ill intentions to affect me. If anything, it just made me feel more confident about how I choose to express myself – especially in a world filled with people like her.

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I remember pretending to laugh it off as she pointed down at my “awful” dress

Another fairly similar experience happened during a Big Brother audition (that’s a story in itself, click here to watch my story-time video on YouTube…). We were instructed to play a game where we had to ‘nominate’ people from the circle. Long story short, a girl had picked me because she didn’t like the way I dressed. Even though I had carefully planned to wear my lovely new floral vintage dress because I believed it looked great, she scowled at my dress and loudly made a “what are those awful pop socks” remark at my legs. (She was referring to my favourite pantyhose which are designed to look like stockings. I’ll leave a link here). As the entire room of 30 other people had heard her comment, I just remember pretending to laugh it off as she pointed down at my “awful” dress and stockings combination.

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It reminded me that there are people out there who wouldn’t dare to be different

Both of those small experiences I had were so tiny and insignificant in the grand scheme of things, but both of those girls had no idea that they were making such a positive impact on my life. When I look back at these small encounters, I realise how much they helped me grow. Not only did it remind me that I have the guts to step outside the house and wear whatever the hell I want, but it reminded me that there are people out there who wouldn’t dare be different. So much so, that they would rather bash other people down for having the balls to. There I was, doing whatever the hell I wanted, completely forgetting just how happy and oblivious I am in my own little world of fashion, hair and makeup choices.

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Nobody who has ever knocked another person down has truly ever been ‘on top’

I really hope that reading this blog post can give you that little nudge of reassurance if you double take your appearance when walking past a mirror to ask yourself whether people will have something rude to say. While you’re out there expressing your kick ass clothing taste, others are green with envy as they watch. Nobody who has ever knocked another person down has ever truly been ‘on top’ – in fact, the very reason somebody will ever try and bring you down is to pull you onto their level. Whoever is trying to bring you down is already below you: don’t you ever find yourself stooping that low.

 

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Where is Happiness?

I visited the location of where my big sister will be getting married today. Though the area will look much greener in the summer, and the weather will paint a lovely orange glow on everything, it did still feel magical getting a glance into where my sister/best friend will be marrying the lady of her dreams.

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It was not until I made it up the hill towards the lovely view when I realised that this area was one of the many places my dad would take my sister and I when we were little. When you’re younger, you never really take in your area the same way you do when you’re older. Your tiny, carefree world made you the most mindful you will ever be. Most often, it didn’t matter how you got somewhere or why you were there – the important thing was, you are there and each part of your small, innocent mind is taking that all in.

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Because what I do involves being an online influence, there are a lot of people that hold on to my word (which has it’s good and bad sides). A question I get a lot is “where do I find happiness?”. Though I am most definitely not always happy, I have moments where I notice my current state of happiness being particularly good for a long while. I often use that time to analyse what I may be doing differently. That child-like mindset I was referring to earlier always seems to be the answer. The moment I keep my mind out of doubtful worry mode, is the moment I am free. Free from stress, anxiety, pain, fear, misery… and most importantly, sadness. It isn’t easy living in the moment, but when you do, it sets you free.

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To focus on the present, we should always recognise what we have instead of what we do not have or what we had. It is very easy for us to be caught up in our own little world when life moves so quickly and change hits us hard. We begin to dwell on the old times and often forget that we are still living. Amazing things are always happening, the trick is noticing them when they are. Taking in key moments now, rather than later when they are gone is essential. Here I was, on high down hill, taking in the moment just as I did when I was little, and just as I will when my sister speaks her vows. The very same place that I enjoyed with her many years ago for a very different reason – playing in the leaves in our kiddie welly boots will soon turn into nervous giggling in our beautiful wedding clothes (and probably a cry or two on my part).

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Of course, with the good times will come the bad. It is easier to be happy during the wonderful times, for sure. But when the tricky times come fast approaching, what do you do or where do you turn? Believe it or not, these times play just as much of a big part as the good ones. Just like with everything in life… How do you know what your favourite food is if you hadn’t tried a number of different ones? How do you know what your favourite hobby is if you hadn’t taken part in a few? How do you know what happiness feels like if you’ve never experienced sadness? The moments in your life when sadness hits you like a cold, unwanted brick sucks… But people with the biggest stories, darkest moments and greatest accomplishments can put up the best of fights.

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You live life to grow as a person, and with each day you wake up, you form into the person you were born to be. Let every rough experience that knocks you give you growth, and let every marvellous one remind you that life is worth living again. Take lots of pauses, and even more deep breaths as you soak in your surroundings as they are today.

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“What day is it?”
It’s today,” squeaked Piglet.
My favorite day,” said Pooh.”
― A.A. Milne

“Happiness, not in another place but this place…
not for another hour, but this hour.”
― Walt Whitman

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Grunge Inspired Makeup Look | NinkComPoop

 

Hello, loves!

Since I was around 15 years old, I always struggled with owning a label. Was I a typical girly-girl or do I prefer alternative fashion? If I think flannel or faux leather looks awesome, then why do I occasionally wear floral? It took me years to realise that I don’t need to have one set label. I do, and I can, chuck on whatever I happen to be loving at that point in time.

One of my favourite things to do is experiment with dark, smokey, and gothic tones – so today I was requested by you guys to create a grungey look. Lets get going!

Eye Shadow

The eye shadow was my favourite part of the process. Huge props go to Blank Canvas’ Master Series palette. This palette never lets me down! I was able to use three colours from the palette for my crease, inner corner, and transition shade. The other fab thing about this palette is the brush that it comes with; it is a double ended blending/applicator brush which is incredible for blending. I managed to blend this crazy dark look just fine (which is usually such a struggle).

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(Shades used: Lily, Forza and Corruption).

This look made me fall in-love with Mac’s ‘Stroke of Midnight’ palette all over again. The beauty of this palette is that it holds the blackest of black and whitest of white shades. Those are two very handy colours to own! For this look, I used the white, gold and black. I popped some more white over the inner corner, black over the brown, and the gold for under my eyes.

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After applying the gold under my eyes, I then went back to the dark brown on my Blank Canvas palette and applied it on my waterline.

Eyeliner and Mascara

At the mo, I have been loving my Barry M eyeliner that I bought on a whim. It lasts all day and is easy to work with. For this look, I ensured that I applied it really thick. Then to finish the eyes, I used my trusty Maybelline Lash Sensational.

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Contour

For my contour, I wanted to use something that will bring out my natural pale skin (sob). I used my Contour Kit by Beautiful Brows to both highlight and define my cheek bones. This kit is one of my favourites and it’s creamy consistency is a dream to work with *drools*.

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Lips

The last and final step! In my opinion, this was one of the most important steps for this as you can’t achieve the perfect grungy look without some dark, gothic lips. I achieved these gorgeous dark lips by using Mac’s ‘Night Moth’ lip pencil and Avon’s Perfect Reds lipstick on top.

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And ta-da! (With a bit of hair crimping) the look is complete…

 

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Thank you for reading this post and I hope you enjoyed it. Let me know if you would like more of these or not – your opinion is appreciated so much!

Hugs, Ellie xo

 

Farewell Winter… | NinkComPoop

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Telling you that I am glad to see the end of winter would be an understatement…

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It’s funny because the seasons always seem to come at just the time we need them. I always happen to be craving whatever season is near approaching. I crave it so much that ever wanting the season I am currently in is beyond me. But indeed, there was a time in the recent past that I dreamed about those cold frosty nights and body warming hot chocolates.

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However, I will miss the autumnal shades and pretty colours that winter brings. Though summer will bring colourful makeup, bright hair and a more daring wardrobe; I am really digging burnt orange, burgundy and dusky rose shades right now.

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During the end of winter, I always find myself dusting off some of my old fur jackets and body warmers. As I live in the UK, it is a rarity to find the right time of year to wear them. With our ridiculously wet winters (water and fur is not very sexy…) and a weather forecast that changes every 5 minutes, it makes the decision to go out in no jacket but some faux fur a daring one…

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The first thing I began to notice are the brighter evenings and mornings. I am so easily impacted by the weather. It is incredible how much difference a bit of sunshine can do to your day. Getting out of bed in the mornings isn’t so much of a drag, and even though the hours don’t change, days just feel that tiny bit longer… (I haven’t even mentioned the goodness in Vitamin D yet!)

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I took a walk along the seafront and across the wood last week to take in some of this season transition before it slips away from us. It really did feel exciting to know that in a very short amount of time, these walks will be accompanied by much warmer weather, and happier looking dog walkers!

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I would love to know something that you are excited to see come to an end this season, or what you are ready to welcome this Spring!

Ellie xo