Organising A Short & Spontaneous Holiday | NinkComPoop

Very recently, Wimdu invited me to a getaway in London! With little planned and minimal items packed, I set off to my little stay at an apartment in Ealing Broadway. There is a video of my trip at my YouTube channel here.

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I had purposely allowed my short break away to be spontaneous and unplanned, giving me all the freedom to venture out and seek for whatever sights take our fancy. London is one of my favourite locations in the world and fortunately it is very close to home and there’s a lot to do there. A lot of last minute decisions were made throughout my trip so I thought it would be fun to discuss small and simple ways to plan your holiday!

1) What’s current and trending?

We are already so clued up on what’s trending within the internet world, we should be doing the exact same when we are travelling somewhere new! It is always a good idea to have a scroll around current Facebook events in the area or recent Twitter posts under location hashtags, etc to find out what’s going on. This way you can make the most of the exact time and place you are travelling. Being able to travel is a good thing, being there at the right time is a great thing!

Amazingly, Facebook let my boyfriend and I know that a Just Eat food festival was happening in the area. The Facebook event stated that there will be award winning food and a cozy environment to chill out and listen to some live music. The festival had photo booths, a blow-up flamingo seating area, photoesque lounges, cocktail bars and even a giant adult slide.

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2) Food stops

If you know anything about me, one of my favourite things to do is eat… During most special occasions, I am always most excited about the food (lol). A holiday is the perfect excuse to cheat yourself out of any current diet and go a little crazy. If I ever find myself in a new area, I love to scope out the location for some hidden gems. Food hot spots can really range from independent cafes to well-known restaurant chains. Honestly, not one evening of my getaway trip was spent in front of the oven… whoops!

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3) The money maker

Finding the money maker of the location you are visiting is knowing what brings all the tourists there in the first place. On holiday, I always have a couple what I call ‘tourist days’. These days are all about doing the stereotypical things everybody does in the area. Why is it popular? What do the majority of people travel there for? How does the city reel visitors in? This is usually the easiest tip to follow because it’s never too difficult to work out somewhere’s true selling point. On one of the days, my friend and I decided that a visit to the Tower of London was perfect for us! I find it so fascinating to hear about all the crazy events which happened in my own country… not to mention that the tower is one of the most haunted places in the world… ooooooo! (Plot twist: I saw 0 ghosts).

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4) No plan caveman

Believe it or not, back in the day people didn’t have technology to help them around new places. I know right… poor sods. In all seriousness, sometimes it is easy to forget the true fun in exploring somewhere new. Because of technology, we often forget the fun in having no idea what we are doing! I encourage you to put your phone away for at least one day (or even afternoon), and just go for a walk somewhere that takes your interest. Not only are spontaneous trips the most enjoyable ones, but you won’t know where the day will take you. You may even find some hidden gems which you wouldn’t have heard about online. During our walks, we came across a lot of incredible graffiti, some beautiful parks, pretty sights and quirky shops.

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To finish this blog post, I would like to thank Wimdu for my lovely escape away into the busy city of London. I had such a lovely time with my boyfriend and a close friend; we all really appreciated (and needed!) the break away. I will leave Wimdu’s link here so that you can plan your own adventure soon: http://www.wimdu.com/?wt_vi=brand.youtube.comactivity.facebook. 

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Why Being Teased About My Dress Sense Made Me Stronger | NinkComPoop

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This blog post was inspired by two things in particular. The first one being my adorable new alternative bags from a few affordable asian websites; and the second being two encounters I had with a couple of strangers a while ago…

The following links provided will lead you to all the items found below:
1) Cupcake: http://rstyle.me/~9ZOjC
2) Pineapple: http://rstyle.me/~9ZOjK
3) Mouse: http://womenfashion.storenvy.com/products/13684464-cute-kawaii-cartoon-mouse-backpack

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Even though something pretty hurtful was happening, I was experiencing a really empowering moment

You might be wondering what I was referring to when I say ‘strange encounter’. It was actually one of the very few experiences I have ever had where even though something pretty hurtful was happening, I was experiencing a really empowering moment. The first instance happened during a night-out in my local town. I had over-heard a conversation between a friend of mine and her mate she had invited out. I remember the girl causing a fuss with my friend because she didn’t know who I was. I could hear my friend trying to assure her that I was a nice friend and good person…

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She said “I don’t want to hang around her, she dresses differently” 

I was only in ear shot so I could hear every word being spoken at this point. The girl must have had a lot to drink or simply just didn’t care whether I could hear or not. The most rememberable thing I heard was “I don’t want to hang around her, she dresses differently”. In that moment, I was instantly back at school amongst young kids who would make remarks just like that one. I remember making some snide comment back to her about how I could very clearly hear everything she was saying. She didn’t care. She simply turned around so her back was facing me.

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Somebody who is happy and content with their lives do not refuse to hang around somebody because they are ‘different’

Everybody who overheard this awkward situation happening didn’t really know what to do… The majority of them were actually more concerned about what I was going to do. Was the night out about to take an awful turn? Was I going to hit her? Was I about to melt down into a show of public hysterics? Was I going to start a fight? I can tell you now, none of those things are me! What I was going to do though, was remember this experience for a very long time… I took one look at this girl and mentally made a note to myself about what unhappiness looked like. I am not the most intelligent woman in the world, but if there is one thing I do know, it is that somebody who is happy and content with their lives, does not refuse to hang around with somebody because they are ‘different’.

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If anything, it just made me feel more confident about how I choose to express myself

For the rest of my evening, I don’t remember feeling angry or becoming sad. I simply remember gaining a massive sense of pride and self respect. Not only had somebody noticed that I have the confidence to dress differently and put on clothes that I thought looked great, but I was able to disallow somebody with ill intentions to affect me. If anything, it just made me feel more confident about how I choose to express myself – especially in a world filled with people like her.

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I remember pretending to laugh it off as she pointed down at my “awful” dress

Another fairly similar experience happened during a Big Brother audition (that’s a story in itself, click here to watch my story-time video on YouTube…). We were instructed to play a game where we had to ‘nominate’ people from the circle. Long story short, a girl had picked me because she didn’t like the way I dressed. Even though I had carefully planned to wear my lovely new floral vintage dress because I believed it looked great, she scowled at my dress and loudly made a “what are those awful pop socks” remark at my legs. (She was referring to my favourite pantyhose which are designed to look like stockings. I’ll leave a link here). As the entire room of 30 other people had heard her comment, I just remember pretending to laugh it off as she pointed down at my “awful” dress and stockings combination.

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It reminded me that there are people out there who wouldn’t dare to be different

Both of those small experiences I had were so tiny and insignificant in the grand scheme of things, but both of those girls had no idea that they were making such a positive impact on my life. When I look back at these small encounters, I realise how much they helped me grow. Not only did it remind me that I have the guts to step outside the house and wear whatever the hell I want, but it reminded me that there are people out there who wouldn’t dare be different. So much so, that they would rather bash other people down for having the balls to. There I was, doing whatever the hell I wanted, completely forgetting just how happy and oblivious I am in my own little world of fashion, hair and makeup choices.

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Nobody who has ever knocked another person down has truly ever been ‘on top’

I really hope that reading this blog post can give you that little nudge of reassurance if you double take your appearance when walking past a mirror to ask yourself whether people will have something rude to say. While you’re out there expressing your kick ass clothing taste, others are green with envy as they watch. Nobody who has ever knocked another person down has ever truly been ‘on top’ – in fact, the very reason somebody will ever try and bring you down is to pull you onto their level. Whoever is trying to bring you down is already below you: don’t you ever find yourself stooping that low.

 

Dealing With Anxiety at a Festival/Gig/Event | NinkComPoop

Click here to watch the travel vlog of my festival trip!

I went to Brighton’s Wildlife festival at the weekend. For quite a while I was psyching myself up to spend 2 days in a field with friends, drinks and music. Obviously the idea of having a possible panic in the middle of crowds due to the overwhelming body contact and interaction wasn’t great, but I tried to brush that under a hypothetical rug.

Once the weekend arrived, it shortly became the highlight of my summer so far. No big problems arose – not even a blip or two. I felt like I had everything under control (something rare for us sufferers!). This event inspired me to create a post on how I personally deal with my own form of anxiety during times where the chances are higher. It’s not often I make anxiety advice posts because I feel that everybody is entirely different from one another. Keep in mind that these are just my own tips and tricks that benefit me every time I attend a gig or festival.

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1. Attend The Festival/Gig

…Well, duh – right? This might sound a little odd, but one of my first pieces of advice is to ‘just do it’. Obviously, you already have intentions to if you are reading this, but things can get a little scary during the build up of a special event. You must keep in mind that it all does get easier the more and more you try them. That isn’t because you’re magically cured, but because you force yourself into situations that help you learn about yourself and the way you work. If I already know what I usually react badly to, then I can work on making small changes in the way I do things during future events.

I love music, dancing, and partying… Giving all those up because I can get easily overwhelmed is exactly what my anxiety wants me to do. I won’t let it win.

 

2. Choose Your Troop Wisely

A big part of how well I think an event is going to go is who I plan to go with. This might come across a little rude, but lets face it; we all have those friends who we just… ‘gel’ with better. We just feel a little more comfortable and at ease with them. If you can, make sure you are attending the event with somebody you are close with, knows you well and makes you feel relaxed (especially if they know you’re an anxiety sufferer).

Important: Have everybody’s number on your phone in case you lose them and please discuss a meeting point as soon as you get there.

 

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3. Go With The Pro

Speaking of choosing your troop, I have always found it useful attending new places with somebody who doesn’t find them as new as you do. It’s always good news if at least one person with me knows what they’re doing because they’ve “done it before”. That could be an avid ‘gig-goer’, or just somebody who “loves a good festival”. It makes me feel as though there is less pressure on myself knowing all the ins and outs/vital things about the event. They are always going to be around to ask questions and lead the way!

 

4. Do Some Research

Sometimes if I am going to be really unfamiliar with the location, I will do a little bit of research before the event. This can mean a quick google map check to view the area you are going to be visiting. It will give you a little peace of mind when you get there and have a rough idea where everything is. I have always found that a balance between organisation and spontaneity is good for me. If I over organise myself, I am going to get myself into a worked up stress. However, giving myself the basic knowledge of an area I am going to attend usually does the trick. Something I often do is look online for people who have posted photos or YouTube videos from the event a year before. If not, a very similar event.

 

5. Fluids!

I have multiple things to say about this one. Firstly, the one you were expecting – water. I am personally really bad at this because I don’t want to risk losing my spot right by the stage due to a full bladder or because I need to go get a drink. Whatever you do, take your toilet and drink breaks whenever you can and whenever suits your schedule for the day. For gigs, I make sure I have popped to the loo and had water right before going into the crowd (this is when going with a friend can help as they can hold your space in the queue while you go!). For festivals, it is a whole lot easier to do drink breaks every so often. No excuses!

On the other hand, there are going to be a whole lot of people around you drinking alcohol. As mentioned earlier, this point in particular definitely differs depending on the individual. But as you know yourself best, be sure that you stick to your most ‘appropriate’ level of alcohol consumption. Personally, I feel that after a couple drinks, a big ton of my anxiety is lifted. For most people though, that isn’t the case. However, I can’t go too nuts because hangovers bring that anxiety right back up x2 the next day (which isn’t ideal when you’re attending a festival over a few days).

Lastly, the idea of having a drink to hold helps me a lot. One part about feeling awkward in public is feeling as though you stick out like a sore thumb. There’s something comforting about having a cool drink on you to keep your hands busy. Or maybe it’s just the feeling of a cold substance being in your palms. This point sounded a little odd, but I guess I know what I mean…

 
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6. Allow Yourself Time

A big part of my anxiety comes from pressure. Rushing about like a headless chicken, doing important things last-minute and panicking about all these little details I must not forget is pressure I do not need. People prone to anxiety usually get in the habit of turning up to things early. There is something a lot more calming about being early than late in the minds of somebody who easily find themselves in a panic. I find that getting yourself up a little early will help you dramatically. This is particularly helpful for gigs and festivals when you may want to look a little extra ‘done up’. This way, there’ll be no reason to get all flustered over chasing the time when applying makeup, doing hair and getting changed.

Allowing yourself time also involves getting your bags packed and makeup/clothing planned days in advance. The more you sort out now, the less you’ll need to stress on the day – you don’t want to drive yourself into an anxious mess!

 

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7. Positioning Yourself In Crowds

One of my favourite things about gigs is just being in the moment; slap bang in the centre of a crowd who have that same undying love for mutual music. I simply must be in the middle of that. If you’re anything like me and you queue early because you would hate to be shoved at the back, you’re going to be the first ones in anyway. Now is a good time to spot the exits just incase you might need them later. On the other hand, if it isn’t as important to you, it’s a good idea to stick to the right hand side of a crowd. This way you are near an exit, but still within all the action. (This also keeps you away from a possible mosh pit; but just keeping away from the middle of a crowd will generally do that anyway).

It’s important to mention here how much love and respect you will find at gigs and concerts. You are surrounded by people who are just friends you haven’t met yet. Keep your eyes ahead of you and focused on the stage. Remember who and what you are there for. Keep conversation busy with those you came with while you wait for the act. If you think it’ll freak you out, try to avoid looking behind you incase the idea of feeling smothered overwhelms you.

 

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And lastly, have a freaking awesome time. You are going to have a blast. I am so excited for you!

I would love to know if any of these help. Feel free to add your own pieces of advice for those who need it. These points are very specific to me so I cannot possibly help everybody.

Ellie